Are You A Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?
Heidi Dellaire

Heidi Dellaire

All Posts

Are You a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?

You have probably heard me talk about highly sensitive people in several podcast episodes. Are you a highly sensitive person? How would you truly know?

 

Dr. Elaine Aron defines the highly sensitive person as someone who “has a sensitive nervous system, is aware of subtleties in his/her surroundings, and is more easily overwhelmed when in a highly stimulating environment.” 

 

It’s estimated that as many as 20% of the population could be classified as highly sensitive. So, you’re not alone if you believe that you’re highly sensitive. This might sound like a defect, but it can be very valuable to be highly sensitive

 

Highly sensitive people tend to be very thoughtful, creative, and intelligent. They can also be great partners. You have a lot to offer if you’re highly sensitive. There is a difference between being sensitive and being a highly sensitive person (HSP).

 

There are several characteristics that suggest you might be a highly sensitive person:

 

    1. Your feelings are easily hurt. Do your feelings seem to be hurt more easily than those of the average person? This is a common theme in those that are highly sensitive.
    2. Negative thoughts and emotions consume a lot of your time. Do you spend a lot of time dealing with negative thoughts and emotions?
    3. Difficulty accepting criticism even if it’s accurate and constructive. Criticism isn’t easy for most people to hear, but is it devastating for you? Are you greatly upset by any type of criticism? Does criticism make you want to quit?
    4. Overreaction to perceived slights or mild insults. When someone fails to say “hello” to you, does it bother you a lot? Do you assume the worst when someone slights you or makes a questionable comment?
    5. Easily overstimulated by crowds, too much activity, bright lights, loud noises, or strong odors. Do you avoid places with a lot of people or loud noise? Do strong odors bother you? Are you easily overstimulated in general?
    6. Easily upset by negative news media. When you watch or read about negative news stories, are you bothered more than most others you know?
    7. You enjoy spending time alone. Do you truly enjoy spending time by yourself? When you’re alone, do you like to keep things simple and quiet? Or, do you listen to loud music while playing video games?
    8. Does it drive you crazy when you have something in your shoe? Do scratchy fabrics drive you nuts? This is another good indicator that you might be. highly sensitive.

 

How much do you hide your sensitivity around others?  Sometimes it is wise to consider when, why, and with whom you will discuss your sensitivity (boundaries are important so as not to be taken advantage of), but do you ever just think it would be better if no one else knew?  Maybe especially that you didn’t know you were an HSP? I want to tell you; your sensitivity is your superpower. It took me a while to truly understand this about myself and now I consider my sensitivity my greatest asset.

 

Consider these advantages of being highly sensitive:

 

  1. More empathetic. If you’re highly sensitive, you can relate more easily to the emotions of others. It’s almost like you know what everyone is thinking and feeling.
  2. More aware of social cues. Highly sensitive people are very aware of social cues like body language, facial expressions, and how to use and interpret personal space.
  3. More alert to changes in the environment. You know when something has changed, or items are out of place. You can feel when the mood of a room has changed.
  4. Able to enjoy subtle things. You can notice small things and appreciate them. You’re more likely to enjoy looking at art, a butterfly, or the clouds than the average person. This is almost like a superpower. You can entertain yourself with simple things.

 

It’s easy to see how these characteristics would be useful in art, negotiating, working in counseling, coaching or the healing arts. There are many ways to use these abilities to your advantage.

 

There are also fields that you should probably avoid if you want to feel happy and peaceful. Working on the bond trading floor in Manhattan probably isn’t your cup of tea. Selling door-to-door probably doesn’t appeal to you either.

 

Use your natural strengths and avoid your natural weaknesses. This is always good advice if you want to be happy and successful.

 

I would love to hear from you if you are a highly sensitive person. Let me know how you are getting along and where you are still struggling. I would love to create more content to help, either podcast episodes, articles, or even courses to help.

 

I specialize in helping sensitive people navigate their way in the world, learn to trust their inner guidance, and build better boundaries to feel safe. We sensitives often have low self-worth because we are easily influenced by those around us. Let me know how I can help.

 

I wouldn’t trade my sensitivity for anything, I hope you don’t either.

 

~Heidi

If you would like to book a Heal Your Strategy Session to work with me on some of these topics, you can go to my Work With Me Page to sign up.

You may find Episodes 84, 85 and 86 of the Heal Your Story podcast helpful when it comes to boundaries and being an HSP.

You may also enjoy this article about sensitivity from my sister site, Love Wide Open

Are You a Sensitive Being in an Insensitive World?

Share this post

5 thoughts on “Are You a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)?”

  1. Yes I am a HSP I also have ADHD.. I have everything you have described, I am very very interested about receiving more valuable information and communications.

    Reply
  2. I am finally accepting myself as a highly sensitive person, an empathetic person. I’d rather feel too much than feel nothing at all. I feel sorry for those that lack compassion and empathy. I see myself and the gifts I have been given as a strength not a weakness.

    Reply
  3. Hello, I have always been very sensitive since a little girl. At birth my identical twin sister died and almost 64 years ago technology was not the Same then as it is now. My parents did not know they were having twins I was sitting on my sister’s lap. She was born first then I was born. I have always felt that I did not belong here and a big void in my life. Now I pray and embrace my precious gift from God. Someone did that they would rather be sensitive then not to have any feelings at all. We all are special and gifts from God. Much love hugs and prayers. Thank you. ❤️

    Reply

Leave a Comment

Heart Space Mojo...

Right at your Fingertips!

Get the latest heart space awesomeness straight to your inbox! Be in the know about Heidi’s latest courses, specials, podcasts, articles and more!